Frustration Is Not What You Want
You can’t always get what you want. It’s true, but man is it frustrating. Do you ever choose not to sleep so you can get something done? Do you ever spend a whole day without relaxation in order to live up to ridiculous expectations you place on yourself?
Lately I find myself very frustrated because of my perfectionist tendencies. I find it very hard to accept that when I’m doing one thing, I can’t be doing something else. I can’t be in two places at once.
It is very hard to accept things as they are and not try to fit everything to my own desires.
When I try to do this I end up running around like a chicken with my head cut off all day, never stopping to enjoy a moment and getting so caught up with things that don’t matter anyway! If I died right now, would I have wanted to spend more time with my family or detailing my bathroom? It helps me to slow down and just do one thing at a time. When I do this, I notice I don’t get as much done but what I do get done, I do well and I feel peaceful inside. It also helps to ask for God’s help in accomplishing something. It may not get done the way you want it or when you want it but it will happen in God’s time. That’s where the Serenity Prayer comes in and really helps put things in perspective.
I have also decided to set boundaries with household tasks. I’ve decided no housework will happen from when my husband get homes till the babies go to bed. This has set an example to my family that rest is important. I tend to be overly ambitious with my to do lists and routines.
But as a good friend of mine always says, “you can’t live your whole life in one day!” Ha! How true that is. So yeah, you can’t always get what you want but as the song says , “you’ll find, you get what you need.” We have to remember what we want (getting our whole list accomplished) isn’t always what is in our best interest, and God created us to need rest and time to enjoy with family and it’s something we have to accept.
This video and book have helped me put things into perspective: