What you’ll find
In this post, I am going to tell you all about how to make your schedule as a mom. It will be completely tailored to your life- something for moms who work outside and inside the home. (Mine is from the perspective of a work-from-home mom) . You’ll also learn how to approach your schedule when life happens – you know the drill – your kids get sick, the dog throws up on every blanket you own, you have unexpected company, etc. You will take stock of all of your responsibilities but also take into account time for prayer and time to do things you enjoy.
Take a look at your life
What does your daily life look like right now? Do you dread waking up in the morning because the demands of the day just seem insurmountable? Find yourself yelling at your kids most of the time and snapping at your husband? Feel like you are working SO hard but you never get anywhere? Well, my friends, it doesn’t have to stay that way!
What you need is to make your schedule as a mom. This will help you keep track of all of your responsibilities and get the important things done and at the same time keep your sanity.
A fabulous book
My life changed dramatically when I read this book , “A Mother’s Rule of Life“. It’s about a stay-at-home , homeschooling mom, who is tired of feeling overwhelmed and stressed out all of the time. She went searching for peace. She was inspired by the simple schedule of religious orders, like the Missionaries of Charity, and how they led productive lives but spent great amounts of time in prayer. When the bell rang for the next block on the schedule, they didn’t hurry trying to finish everything up , they practiced obedience – “okay God, I guess that’s all you wanted me to do today.” (Man, could I use some of that kind of acceptance in my life!) Their goal wasn’t efficiency, it was to serve and to do it peacefully. Because, the old saying, you can’t give what you don’t have, right?
Let’s get started, make your schedule as a mom
- Buy a Mother’s Rule of Life. Seriously. You won’t regret it.
- Decide on a wake up time and bed time.
- Count how many hours you have in a day.
- Decide how much time to spend in prayer.
- Write down how much time you need for grooming and bathing.
- Include time needed for activities you enjoy like reading, drawing, writing.
- Include a few break times, 15 minutes each.
- Don’t forget time with your husband or social time with those you care about.
- Include time with your kids.
- Include time for chores
- Input meal times (cooking and cleanup) and bed time routines. Overestimate how much time you think you need. This allows margin.
- Include time for working. This may be before your kids wake up or you may go to work inside the home.
Now is the time you see if you have any time left over. You probably don’t! This is good though! This is validation that you have so much to take care of and you aren’t just lazy! If you have any leftover time, decide where it should go and if you don’t, decide where you have to cut. If we want to lead a peaceful life, we have to be very discerning about how we use our time.
My mother’s rule
5:30 – 7 :00 AM – Pray, get dressed, drink coffee, work on blog, put makeup on
7:00 – 8:30 AM – Breakfast , say grace, & cleanup & morning chores
8:30-9:00 AM – Kids dressed
9:00 – 9:10 AM- 10 minute break for me
9:10 – 9:40 AM – Put laundry in the dryer and walk the dog
9:40 -9:50 AM – Ab workout
9:50 – 11:50 AM – Outing/errand
11:50 – 12:00 PM – 10 minute break for me
12:00- 1:30 PM – Lunch, say grace, cleanup, laundry put away, story time
1:30 – 2:30 PM – Quiet time me and my son while my daughter naps. I read, blog, draw, or watch You Tube.
2:30 – 3:30 PM – I call this Admin time. It’s for meal planning, week planning, budget planning, etc. If I don’t need to do these things its more quiet time.
3:30-4:30 PM – Kids outside play while I do my afternoon tidy and cleanup routine.
4:30 – 6:00 PM – Make dinner, say grace, cleanup, night cleaning routine
6:00 – 8:00 PM – I shower, then my kids take a bath, and we have family time, story time and then the kids go to bed.
8:00-9:00 PM – Time to chill with my husband and watch a show or talk or have some other quality time.
9:00 – 9:30 PM – I wind down for bed.
How I Occupy My Kids
My goal is to occupy my kids without screens. To have them play quietly when I need dedicated time.
What I’m trying to say is, the TV is a tool in a mom’s toolkit guys. As long as it’s not being used to excess, the content is appropriate, and isn’t there as a substitute of other important activities, I think it’s okay. With that said, my kids watch quite a bit of TV, probably more than the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) says they should – but AAP doesn’t know me. They don’t know about what my needs are and our family’s unique circumstances. They don’t know that my kids also help me around the house, play with toys, play with me, bake with me, play with the dog, make messes, play in the dirt, go to the park, go on play dates, read books, roughhouse with my husband, visit family, etc. Sometimes I need to have things a little quieter for my sanity.
Only you know the needs of your family, and you shouldn’t feel guilty when your kids watch more TV than you like if you have a serious reason to do so.
When you are off track
You are going to get off track. And trust me, it’s going to be most of the time. (It is for me.) So, when it happens, just get back on track as soon as the next block starts. Sometimes this may mean there are dishes left in the sink. Remember, the goal is peace not efficiency. But if this keeps happening over and over again, for months on end, it’s time to adjust and re-evaluate your rule.
Plan to evaluate your schedule once every three months or as needed. Three months seems like a good plan to me, though, because by then with my two little ones, my life tends to look quite a bit different.
If your life is spiraling out of control, take heart! No matter what season you are in, you can take control and get the important things done. So go make your schedule as a mom! If you already have one, please let me know in the comments below!