My brilliant friend Maggieothevalley just wrote an excellent post about friendship, and it inspired me to do the same!
Disclaimer: This post is written about normal friendships, not abusive ones. In the case of abuse, please seek help! Also, read this.
My Friend Story
I write this as a person who has grown in the area of making friends and being a friend. Growing up I was always painfully shy. I’m talking about about hide-behind-my-mom-can’t-make-eye-contact-can-barely-hear-me-because-i-spoke-too-softly kind of shy. I also could not be vulnerable – if I was upset, I shut down. (I’m still working on this but I’ve gotten much better.) This all changed out of necessity, when I started working at a coffee shop. I had to call out orders and I got tired of repeating myself because people couldn’t hear me. This started my life long journey of learning to be more confident and charismatic. I am always reading books on the subject and watching YouTube videos. I think everyone can develop these traits, you already have what you need, you just have to learn to let it shine.
How does all this have to do with being a friend? Well, you can’t give what you don’t have. It’s very hard to have the confidence to make a new friend if you are constantly focusing on yourself and how weird you are. I believe it’s important to develop an arsenal of habits and mentalities that make you feel more confident and secure in yourself. I think we try to attract friends by appearing strong and showcasing our beauty, talents, intelligence, and accomplishments when really it’s more about being kind, welcoming, uplifting, and genuinely showing interest in someone else, and giving others permission to be authentic through our vulnerability.
Recently, I have been feeling much more stressed. My schedule has been out of whack because it’s summer and my to do list has been larger because I have been entertaining more, which is wonderful and I love it, but it’s still a lot of work. We have had some unexpected repairs come up for the house as well as some other surprise mishaps. So needless to say, I’ve been stressed. I’ve tried to make time to read, however, and I just finished the book “Living a Life You Love: Embracing the Adventure of Being Led By the Holy Spirit” by Joyce Meyer. I loved it, it’s super simple and straight forward, like all of her books. And man, does she have a great sense of humor. The part about obedience really struck me, and how God rewards our obedience. I also took the part about praying for God’s grace to heart, and I have been.
I believe that being considerate is a vital part of being a decent human being. We should always have empathy and think of how others are feeling. But, I also think many of us have a wrong understanding of what being considerate is, and it can prevent us from having thriving relationships and meaningful connections with others as well as receiving the help we need.
I don’t know about you, but I love a homemade gift! I especially love funny and inspirational quotes. A few years ago, for Christmas, I made most of my family a mug. I searched Pinterest for images that reminded me of each person, and I drew those things on the mug.
I am in the process of reading Ruth Soukup’s book, How to Blog For Profit Without Losing Your Soul, and there is so much great information in there. One thing in particular that is impacting my blogging productivity is the concept of an editorial calendar. Here I will explain the concept and its benefits.
There are so many important and noble careers to be had. Both men and women can be doctors, lawyers, teachers, entrepreneurs, CEOs, political leaders, and the list goes on. To aspire to excellence in a career is a worthy cause.
You may have heard about capsule wardrobes. They are all over Pinterest. For those of you who don’t know, it is a collection of clothes that can be mixed and matched into countless outfits, and there are separate capsules for Spring/Summer. I love this concept, but have you heard about the ten-item wardrobe? It’s a micro wardrobe adopted from French lifestyle. Let’s take a look.
I had one of those “oh yeah, I need God” kind of days. You know, one of those days where you realize how far you have to come. One of those days you are humbled and realize you are a child of God and not God. One of those days where there is more than your fair share of human waste. You get the picture here.